Book Review #1

1/28/19 – Linda Rehmeyer wrote: “This book is a very good read. Lots of good advice concerning grief and “pulling yourself up again to start all over.” It has a lot of good advice vor online dating (or any kind of dating). Shelby is a very interesting and talented writer! This is her first book. She lives in Sturgis. Come hear her speak on Saturday, February 12, 2019, at the Colon Township Library in Colon, MI.

Why Write this Book?

My objective is two-fold.

#1 – One of life’s most difficult events is the loss of a spouse (or partner). It is catastrophic as it wrenches us out of our comfort zone and throws us immediately into a new life in which we must make learn to make decisions and simply survive by ourselves. It is a time of loss, a time of sadness and sorrow, and a time of reflection about our past and our future. It is a time in which we are faced with our own immortality, which we prefer not to think about. It is a time called “grieving” and something necessary for healing.

There are no set rules for grieving. Each person grieves differently, and that is okay! Some people cry, some busy themselves with routines, some give up, some talk a lot, some are quiet, some laugh and joke around. Some people take longer than others to go through the process. Did you know there are seven stages of grief that almost everyone goes through?

The important thing is to allow one’s self to “feel” whatever emotion overtakes us at any given moment. I felt the need to write about my feelings as I dealt with the loss of my husband of fifty years and to share the thoughts and activities which helped me to deal with those feelings, to survive and to make decisions about my future.

#2 – In deciding that I would like to find a new friend (perhaps a new love) presented a major problem for me, how to meet new people? Not one to go to bars, and not having a job, left only one avenue for me – internet dating and social media. This proved an easy way to meet and get to know people in the safety of my own home and I have met quite a few new friends this way. However, I found danger lurking there also. A danger that is fast becoming an epidemic as more and more people are almost hypnotized into a fake relationship only to find out they are being scammed and losing their much-needed money. My passion for writing this book is to educate my readers about the problem and to remind them to keep their money and to keep their personal information private.

Statistics show that there are about 25,000 scammers at any given moment of any given day talking to a potential “victim”. The shocking statistics of our seniors’ retirement funds making criminals, liars and cheats wealthy, motivated me to begin spreading the word hoping that education will kill this business by stopping profits. therefore, stopping this insanity.

How is this done? Scammers set up fake profiles with stolen photos of beautiful women and handsome men that lure lonely, vulnerable and unsuspecting men and women into fake relationships with promises of love and marriage. However, their real objective is to steal their money. Surprisingly, this has become an epidemic as more and more people fall for the scheme. Readers will find a chapter on how to recognize a scammer. Please do not allow yourself or anyone you know become one of their victims.

Press Release



Contact: Shelby Wagner


Widow Releases Book on Grief, Survival, and Online Dating

The loss of someone we love is a very difficult event that evokes uncomfortable and conflicting emotions. Each person grieves differently and needs to be allowed to go through the process in  his or her own way. This author takes the readers through her grieving process and coping strategies she found helpful following the loss of her husband of fifty years and the re-building of her life.

MAITLAND, FL—Within the pages of Shelby Wagner’s book, Learning to Dance in the Rain ($13.49, paperback, 9781545652923; $6.99, e-book, 9781545652930), readers will find insights into the grieving process, suggested coping strategies and a look into the world of Internet Dating. 

Wagner shares a warning about the internet’s scammers and urges all seniors to be cautious and to refuse all requests for money from anyone on the internet. Surprisingly there is an epidemic of people giving away their money to strangers only to find out the hard way they have been “scammed.” At the same time, many seniors are also finding out that their own financial futures have become jeopardized because of their own generosity to their own adult children. Shelby urges us all to become more fiscally responsible and to be extremely careful about all personal and financial information 

Shelby Wagner was brought up in a Christian home with a younger brother and sister, and raised two children with her lat husband. Her careers have included elementary schoolteacher, Church Music Ministry, website designer and entrepreneur.

Xulon Press, a division of Salem Media Group, is the world’s largest Christian self-publisher, with more than 12,000 titles published to date. Learning to Dance in the Rain is available online through,, and


Welcome to my new blog. You may not recognize me here as I have changed my theme and focus to the subjects of my newly published first book, “Learning to Dance in the Rain”.  The “Rain” in the title is the sadness and grieving over the passing of my husband of fifty years ago in 2016.

The book is my story about becoming single again after having lived most of my life as part of a couple and how I grieved (the “rain”) and learned to survive. I dealt with my loneliness, relocated, learned to line dance, made new friends… and I am sharing with you in hopes that my experiences will be helpful to you.